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M4_5 Independence of Mentee Mentoring Arrangement

Lesson 5

Discuss -> Manage independence of the mentee:

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Define independence:

  • the fact or state of being independent.
  • freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.

Define codependence:

  • excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically a partner who requires support due to an illness or addiction.
  • May also be driven by the type of relationship

Define interdependence:

  • the dependence of two or more people or things on each other.
  • In an interdependent relationship, participants may be emotionally, economically, ecologically or morally reliant on and responsible to each other.

Identify characteristics of a mentoring arrangement that fosters mentee independence:

  • Use of questions vs telling
  • Story telling
  • Accountability - focus on mentee being accountable
  • Commitment to arrangement

Discuss the issue of codependence in a mentoring arrangement:

  • Because of nature of the mentoring relationship this can happen
  • Mentee will not make decisions without the approval or participation of the mentor
  • No accountability on the part of the mentee
  • If there is failure the mentee will shift blame to the mentor

Discuss the contribution of interdependence in the mentoring arrangement:

  • Interdependence fosters a relationship of mutual trust and growth
  • Each is accountable to the other
  • Need to make sure that they are accountable to themselves first
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